Watch out for “non-feeling” words…

It is important to choose words that really are feelings. That’s the reason for the list. If you use words like “abandoned” or “misled” or “unheard” we can prevent ourselves from getting to the “REAL” feelings. These words are more like accusations or judgments than feelings.

When we slow down and think about it, often there is something like “sad” or “scared” or “frustrated.” This distinction makes a big difference in how this NVC exercise works.